“The Constitution only gives people the right to pursue happiness. You have to catch it yourself.” – Benjamin Franklin
Now-a-days, more than ever, it’s harder to slow down and enjoy one’s life for what it really is. It’s hard to be happy when we focus on the harsh world that the media draws to our attention. When we’re constantly connected to the whole world, it consumes us. It makes our life seem smaller than it is.
However, there’s plenty to live a happy life for. Here are some tips to keep your life happy.
1. Be optimistic, because there’s no reason not to be.
People who are happy tend to react to negativity in a more optimistic way. Positive Psychologist Dr. Martin Seligman defines optimism as “reacting to problems with confidence and high personal ability.” Remember, negative happenings are only temporary. Research has positively connected optimism to life longevity, recovery time from illness, and overall physical health. So, remember, the glass is always half full.
2. Learn how to say “NO!”
“Saying yes to happiness means learning to say no to things and people that stress you out.” -Psychologist, Dr. Thema Davis
When you say yes to everyone and everything, it can lead to you being overwhelmed by your own commitments. Why do that to yourself? Happy people know that sometimes, it’s okay to say “no” to requests that you don’t want to do; that’s life. So before you agree to do something, think about it for a little bit; is it something that you want to do? If not, say NO!
3. Go outside!
“I like this place and could willingly waste my time in it.” ― William Shakespeare
Scientists have proven that being outside for even a measly half hour can change your mood from bad to good. Even if the sun isn’t shining, everyone deserves to enjoy some fresh air from time to time. Being outside is an escape from your busy life, and it’s free, so why not take it? Get out of your stuffy office or home and enjoy what Mother Nature has given us.
4. Surround yourself with supportive people.
“Happiness is only real when shared.” – Christopher McCandless
Even when you feel comfort when you’re alone, you will never live a life of happiness unless you have optimistic and supportive people around you. Lose the people who are toxic to your happiness. There’s no reason to keep those kind of people around. According to Robert Putnam’s studies, http://chqdaily.com/2013/07/23/putnam-strongest-predictors-of-happiness-are-social-relationships/ making a good friend causes an increase in happiness equal to tripling ones’ salary. Now just imagine if you made two good friends . . . or three . . . or four.
5. Be true to yourself, admit to your mistakes.
“Everyone makes mistakes, everyone has those days.” – Hannah Montana
Ms. Montana got it right; everyone is human, we all make mistakes. However, the worst thing you can do is try to hide them from yourself. Living in denial is no way to live a life. Plus, believe it or not, mistakes actually make you more likeable! According to Dr. Eliot Aronson’s “Pratfall effect” in Social Psychology, making mistakes makes competent people seem more attractive, and more human to others. Who knew!